When someone trusts you with their story, the most powerful thing you can offer is to believe them. Here’s how to be the support a survivor needs.
“I believe you” and “this wasn’t your fault” are the two most healing sentences a survivor can hear. Lead with them.
Let them share at their pace. Don’t press for details or ask questions that sound like doubt.
Resist the urge to fix everything or decide for them. Restoring their sense of control is part of healing.
“Can I sit with you while you call the hotline?” is more useful than “let me know if you need anything.”
Supporting a survivor is heavy. The RAINN hotline also helps friends and family.
A gentle reminder: laws and timelines differ by state, and they’ve been changing in survivors’ favor. See your options by state, or simply reach out; using this site costs nothing and creates no obligation.
Rarely. Many states have extended or removed time limits, and survivors come forward and find justice years or decades later. When you feel ready, it’s worth learning your specific options, it’s free to ask.
No. Reporting is always your choice, and you can find support or pursue a civil claim without a police report or any criminal case.
Hotlines such as RAINN are free. Many survivor-focused attorneys offer a free first consultation and work on contingency, but ask how any attorney charges before you agree.
Share only what feels okay. The team that runs this site reads these messages and can point you to support options. No pressure, no cost to you. If you need to talk now, call RAINN at 800-656-4673, 24/7.
Thank you for trusting us with this. If you need to talk now, RAINN is here 24/7 at 800-656-4673.